Who needs a little romance?

When you think of romance you might think of flowers or candy. The idea of romance might make you think of Valentine's Day etc. Romance is described in many definitions Romance is a general term that refers to an intimate and often sexual relationship between two people. Now notice that it is often a sexual relationship, but it doesn't have to be a sexual relationship in order to be romantic.

When I think of romance I also think of the Romantic Period, which from a historians view was several times in history where great contributions were made in separate artistic movements. But the point is that it was a creative time in history. Romance is also viewed as a creative expression of one's love and desire.

Being the type of person that I am I cannot fathom a world or a way of living that does not exhibit romance. Now I am not talking about flowers on Valentine's Day, I am talking about a way of life. The definition also speaks about a feeling of excitement about a relationship or about love. This is by definition the way we should conduct ourselves.

We should ALWAYS be excited about our relationships, and should constantly be striving to show our love in creative and romantic ways. To exhibit this only on Valentine's Day or a Birthday is like deciding that your love will only be shown 2 out of the 365 days a year. Why would we settle on such an important issue and show our lack of effort and compassion. Living in the status quo, and not taking advantage of our passion and creativity to fuel our relationsips and keep them whole.

What happened to us as a society that we can go day to day without this excitement, this intimacy that we have toward the ones that mean the most to us. What is this saying, "I do not love you enough to be creative and think of new ways to exhibit my love and excitement for you." And if you noticed this form of expression does not have to have any sexual contact or relations to be manifested.

Romance, creativity and relationship "newness" is what keeps the excitement going. Keeping your relationship "fresh" is what establishes healthy relationships that pass the test of time. Neglecting romance, removes the passion from your relationship. And if you didn't know an intimate relationship that is lacking passion will fall apart and go by the wayside.

Strive to be creative, looking for new ways to please your partner. Constantly maintain your excitement for one another. Show you partner that they are "worth" your time and effort/energy to bring new ideas to light. Romance is still sometimes viewed as an expressionistic or artful form, and requires effort and thought. It is a skill worthy of being practiced and perfected, just as your relationship is worthy of the respect and care that you give it.

I for one need some romance…

For a relationship to stay alive, love alone is not enough. With imagination, love stales into sentiment, duty, boredom. Relationships fail not because we have stopped loving but because we first stopped imagining.~James Hillman